De-Rutify Your Life!

Do you ever find yourself doing things because that’s the way they’ve always been done? Because that’s how you were trained (either for a job or for life). Because when you moved in, your spouse, partner, BFF already had the ugly couch in front of the window, and even though you couldn’t actually open the window with the couch in front of it–you never considered just moving the flipping couch.

We get comfortable with inefficiencies and redundancies AND we live with mediocrity BECAUSE it’s how we’ve been trained, whether by ourselves or by someone else.

We have made our lives a bad habit, one, we’re probably not aware of, which is just another way of saying:

Our life might be in a rut.

So, how the heck do you get out of a rut you don’t know you’re in? Good question. My mom–the imitable Joan Kennedy — suggests trying something small, like sitting in a different chair in the evening, then she laughs, because folks get prrretty up in arms about a different chair.

Try something new.

I know I look at my house differently when I’ve invited people over–uh, do we need this invitation taped to the frig from LAST SUMMER? Huh…look at that, there are crumbs on the back of the couch. Is there a way to look at your life in the same way? Maybe just being aware, open yourself up to questions.

How you go about your day is how you go about your life.

This is a work in progress for me. I am (trying) to add good habits in the place of same-old, same-old ruts. Exercise and meditation instead of vegging out with Netflix. I’m not perfect, sometimes I veg, but I don’t let it defeat me either, the next day it’s back to exercise… The difference between a good habit and a rut is movement–a good habit moves you forward toward a goal, a rut keeps you solidly in place.

Where do you want to be?

Re-Mind. Also, my goals for A Round of Words in 80 Days

Small adorable child looking at my locket, opening it and seeing the words inside: Why do you have this in here?

Me: Well, I have the word “attention” because I need to pay attention.

Mother of small adorable child: You?! Really?! (said in a far too sarcastic voice!)

Hmmm. Perhaps I need to do more than cut out the word from a dictionary–settle down, I saved it and now it’s sole purpose is crafting and it’s very happy about it–maybe I need to actually pay attention, give my attention.

Some of you know I’m working my way through Danielle LaPorte’s The Desire Map starting with this post. And, clearly, I’m hoping for some direction, because…Map! But I need something I can start now.

I know about mindfulness and I have my #onegoodcup (nearly) every day…but even though I’m mindful most mornings, is that equating to giving and paying attention throughout the whole day? Clearly, if my desk right at this moment is any indication with my dinner, this post, my performance review all in ongoing stages, the answer is no.

Multitasking is never the answer. I know! But really, experiments have been done.

Putting everything aside, I will now concentrate on this post and only this post.

Knowing about mindfulness is not practicing mindfulness. Ouch.

I had to remind myself every day: one good cup, for about two weeks, before it became just what I did. I have to make hash marks on a piece of paper to mark my glasses of water drank, for me to ACTUALLY drink 8-10 glasses and not simply think I’m getting enough water. And draw stars on a calender to mark when I’ve flossed–no judging!

Maybe, I need to Re-Mind myself to be mindful. I like that, Re-Mind.

I almost stopped what I was doing to make myself a great big note: Re-Mind. Focus. Attention.

But I stopped myself 🙂 I’ll do it when I’ve finished this post…

Please don’t consider this multitasking, just a change of subject!

A gentle writing challenge!

A Round of Words in 80 Days

This is exactly what I need right now for me to pay attention to my writing! If you’d like to check it out and maybe join in the non-stressful and nice accountability fun, click the link above!

I’ve been “writing” this book for far too long–apparently multitasking is not efficient…or creative…or good.


  1. Brainstorm character arcs — 1 week
  2. Brainstorm rest of book — 1 week
  3. Writing: 350 words a day until 1st draft is done–do not go back and fix anything until done
  4. Editing: I’ll re-visit this as I get closer.